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Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

November 29, 2016

Tweed jacket with jeans. Tweed jacket with jeans. Tweed jacket with jeans. Tweed jacket with jeans. Tweed jacket

📷’s by  Luba Kochubey Portraits

Jacket: Cupcakes & Cashmere (similar) | Tee: J.Crew (similar) | Denim: Treasure & Bond| Jewelry: Rocksbox (use code laceandpearlsblogxoxo at checkout to receive your first month free) | Sandals: Josef Seibel | Purse: Marc by Marc Jacobs (similar)| Lipstick: Bite Beauty (no longer available but similar)

Stop playing the comparison game. It will only drive you crazy. Put that energy into something productive and remember that worrying about what others have will not get you further along.

I often think about other bloggers and what they’ve accomplished. It makes me want to throw in the towel, but then I realize that I am not ready for what’s to come. I don’t have time to blog 5 days a week and be active on every social platform, nor do I want to.

Stop Comparing Yourself and Here’s Why

When life bogs you down and you start comparing yourself to those around you, put that energy into something you’re passionate about. Then continue to refine it. Once you’re the expert in that particular area, take on a little more.

When the time is right, your opportunity will come. If that doesn’t happen right away, just know that you have more to learn. Now don’t get me wrong, some do get that break early, but maybe they were ready. It was their time to begin the next chapter.

On the flip side, if your opportunity is now, hooray! You can only learn so much on your own before you have to learn through experience. You’re going to make mistakes, and that’s OK. By the time you’ve made your mark no one will even remember the mistakes you made along the way.

So keep all this in mind the next time you feel like comparing yourself to others. Even those who look like they have it all, don’t. We are all struggling with something.  Stay positive and pat yourself on the back for your successes. Remember to put that negative energy into your next opportunity.

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4 Comments · Labels: Fashion, Lifestyle Tagged: Black & White, Blogging Tips, Distressed Denim, Self care, Street Style, Tweed

How to Overcome Anxiety When Networking

November 9, 2016

Previously I shared some tips on networking and how to break the ice in social situations. Today I want to discuss the topic of anxiety. Previously I shared some tips on networking and how to break the ice in social situations. Today I want to discuss the topic of anxiety. Previously I shared some tips on networking and how to break the ice in social situations. Today I want to discuss the topic of anxiety.Previously I shared some tips on networking and how to break the ice in social situations. Today I want to discuss the topic of anxiety.Previously I shared some tips on networking and how to break the ice in social situations. Today I want to discuss the topic of anxiety. Previously I shared some tips on networking and how to break the ice in social situations. Today I want to discuss the topic of anxiety.📷’s by  Luba Kochubey Portraits

Blouse: J.Crew | Sweater: Shein c/o | Denim: AG | Jewelry: Rocksbox (use code laceandpearlsblogxoxo at checkout to receive your first month free) | Sandals: Josef Seibel | Purse: Old Navy  | Lipstick: Bite Beauty (no longer available but similar)

Previously I shared some tips on networking and how to break the ice in social situations. Today’s post is a bit different. I want to discuss the topic of anxiety and share some pointers.

Whenever I go to an event, I have so much anxiety beforehand. Once I arrive, I enjoy connecting with others and always find that once I get there, I’m ok. Beforehand, though, is a different story.

Here’s a little peek…

First and foremost, the most important question of all, what will I wear?! Do I need to change before I leave work or wear something that works for both the office and the event?

How will I get there? Do I have to drive? I hate driving. Ugh, and parking gives me even more anxiety. Will I have to parallel park or circle around the block in search of a parking garage?

Do I need to really go to the event? It’s a work night and I’m tired. I’ve been up since 6 am. I’ll be hungry before hand and will need to pack extra food or grab something on the way. Maybe I should cancel. I’d much rather veg on the couch and watch Netflix.

Who’s going to be there? Will I know anyone? Will I remember their name?

At this point, I most often convince myself to go.

Two Tips for Overcoming Anxiety in Social Situations

Say how you feel (within reason) and wear light weight clothing. Oh, and bring breath mints or gum and pain reliever. I always manage to have a headache.

Light weight material and sleeveless anything is best. I know what you’re thinking; what if it’s the dead of winter. Throw on a jacket and plan to take it off once you arrive. Trust me, you will be sweating bullets. Most event spaces are warm. This is why it’s good to say how you feel (ice breaker). “Is it hot in here? I’m sweating like crazy.” I’m usually met with a chuckle and smiles, people assuring me that it is, in fact, warm.

The takeaway? Just keep it real. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. If you fumble your words or say something awkward (I do all the time), it’s not the end of the world. The more you put yourself out there the better you will get at being conversational. In my experience, making the event can be very rewarding, with future collaborations, new friends, and learning opportunities.

Related posts:

  1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
  2. 6 Tips for Self-Care
  3. Pause & Reflect: Celebrate Yourself aka Self-Care! 6 Ideas
  4. 6 Ways to Practice Positive Self Talk this February

2 Comments · Labels: Fashion, Lifestyle Tagged: Distressed Denim, Girly Fashion, Networking, Networking Tips For Bloggers, Self care

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